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Intuition isn't Woo—it's Wiring
The Lavish Well | Issue 03
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
— Albert Einstein
THE PULSE
This is what matters this week.
We need to have a different conversation about intuition.
Not the vague, mystical version you’ve been sold.
The real one.
The one that lives in your gut, speaks in sensations, and gets sharper every time you honor it.
If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself, overanalyzed a decision, or ignored a gut feeling you knew was right—you’re normal.
We’ve all been trained to override ourselves.
But that “I should have listened to myself” moment?
It stings like a mother.
As women in a man’s world, we’ve been taught to privilege logic over sensation.
To research instead of remember.
To defer instead of decide.
We weren’t taught that the body has intelligence.
We were told to silence it in favor of someone else’s rules.
But here’s the truth:
Your intuition isn’t soft. It isn’t vague. And it isn’t some mystical byproduct of femininity.
It’s your internal GPS—wired into your biology, sharpened through pattern recognition, and grounded in real life experience.
THE DEEP TAKE
Where we go deeper—science, story, truth.
The Science of Inner Knowing
When something “feels off,” it often is.
Where there’s smoke, there’s usually fire.
That’s not drama—it’s data.
Your nervous system is constantly scanning for cues:
Is this safe? Is this aligned? Can I exhale here?
The vagus nerve runs from your brainstem to your gut—translating micro-signals into biological responses before your mind ever catches up.
It shapes how you breathe, digest, regulate emotion, and sense safety.
It’s constantly asking: Are we okay here?
Your enteric nervous system—your “second brain”—lives in your gut.
It reads emotional tone.
Detects energetic dissonance.
Flags danger or misalignment.
This is where that gut feeling comes from—
The drop in your stomach when something’s wrong.
The quiet exhale when something’s right.
The subtle tension, the tightening, the knowing.
You don’t need evidence to feel it.
You just know.
The discomfort you feel when someone oversteps or the ease and release you feel when something clicks into place aren’t overreaction.
It’s perception.
It’s your body running pattern recognition at the speed of instinct.
We’ve just been trained to explain it away.
To wait for permission.
To make it logical.
But your gut doesn’t lie.
And your intuition doesn’t wait for consensus.
This is your wiring.
This is your wisdom.
And the more you partner with it—
The more coherent, grounded, and clear your life becomes.
IN REAL LIFE
What it actually looks like.
Rebuilding the Channel
Don’t start with the life-changing decisions.
Start with the everyday ones.
The moments that fly under the radar—but quietly set the tone for everything else:
Do I actually want to go out tonight?
Or would I rather stay in and curl up on the couch with my partner?
Am I buying this outfit because I love how I feel in it?
Or because it’s trending and I don’t want to fall behind?
Do I want another coffee—or do I just need a break?
These micro-moments are how you practice clarity.
Not someday.
Today.
Intuition isn’t built through magic.
It’s built through calibration.
That means learning how to interpret your body’s cues—
consistently, under pressure, and in real time.
It means rebuilding the channel between stimulus and signal—
so you can recognize the difference between a pattern and a truth.
Here are 5 Transformative Ways to Build Your Intuition:
🖤 Rebuild your felt sense of YES.
If your nervous system is wired for people-pleasing or survival, “yes” might feel like relief from tension—not true alignment.
It might show up as avoiding conflict instead of claiming clarity.
That’s not intuition—it’s a learned coping strategy.
Start paying attention to what genuinely feels good in your body:
Grounded. Expansive. Energized. Certain.
Not adrenaline. Not obligation. Not escape.
Take note when something lands clean—no tension, no overthinking.
That’s your true yes.
To solidify this in the nervous system, repeat the feeling on purpose:
Name it. Breathe into it. Act on it.
This is how the body learns what safety and clarity feel like—through experience, not theory.
Over time, this becomes your new baseline.
And when practiced consistently, it stops being a question.
It becomes your first nature—quiet, resolute, and unmistakable.
🖤 Slow down so your intuition can catch up.
When you’re moving at the speed of urgency, your body’s wisdom gets drowned out by performance.
Slowness isn’t a luxury. It’s a prerequisite for precision.
You can’t feel what’s true if you’re racing to stay ahead of what might go wrong.
Build in structured pause points.
Before the text. Before the email. Before the commitment.
Before you say yes.
Scan your system—breath, gut, jaw, pulse.
Those cues aren’t optional. They’re your intel.
Intuition can’t speak when you’re already halfway out the door.
It rises when you slow down enough to hear yourself.
🖤 Trust the first signal before your conditioning overrides it.
When your being speaks clearly—listen the first time.
The signal may come from your body, a voice in your head, or just a knowing.
That’s it. Recognize it and let that be your answer.
Every second you wait is a window for old strategies to sneak in.
You’ll start to rationalize.
You’ll default to the role you’re supposed to play.
You’ll act like you’re fine, while your nervous system is bracing underneath.
That’s not intuition.
That’s survival strategy dressed as self-trust.
And stop confusing internal clarity with external approval.
One comes from your center. The other demands you abandon it.
Your signal doesn’t need to be perfect.
It just needs to be trusted.
🖤 Follow alignment, not expectations.
The aligned choice won’t always feel easy.
It might disrupt the plan.
It might disappoint someone.
But it will land with clarity—like your whole system can finally breathe.
Alignment feels like steadiness in your chest.
Like not having to rehearse your reasoning.
Like looking in the mirror without second-guessing—then moving on with your day.
Say no without the nervous smile.
Say yes without the self-editing.
Make the choice your body can stand behind—without shrinking it to make others more comfortable.
Expectation demands performance.
Alignment builds self-respect—choice by choice, day in and day out.
Even when it feels small.
Especially when it feels small.
🖤 Remove the noise so you can hear yourself again.
Your intuition doesn’t need more input—it needs less interference.
You’re not missing answers. You’re drowning in distractions.
Close the extra tabs.
Turn off the podcast that’s trying to fix you.
Step away from the scroll that’s keeping you externally focused.
Put your hand on your belly.
Then your heart.
Drop back in.
Not to think.
But to sense.
To notice the difference between urgency and truth.
Between stimulation and resonance.
You don’t have to tune out the world forever.
But this is how you learn to distinguish your own frequency inside the noise.
When the world gets quieter, your clarity gets louder.
And the more you practice this, the faster you’ll recognize when something’s yours—and when it’s not.
This is how you reconnect with the internal signal.
Not mystical. Not abstract.
Just real, embodied intelligence—back online.
Every time you choose that signal over an old strategy, you build capacity:
For discernment.
For coherence.
For intuition that doesn’t waver—even when the world gets loud.
That’s the work.
FROM THE WELL
What’s supporting the rhythm.
Luxury as a Signal of Safety
This week, your tool for well-being isn’t a supplement or a strategy.
It’s silence.
Not the absence of sound— but the absence of input you didn’t choose.
Turn down the volume.
Light the candle.
Put on the playlist that drops you into yourself.
Or don’t.
Sometimes the most lavish thing you can do is create a moment with no agenda.
No optimization.
No information to process.
Just space.
Your nervous system doesn’t need more noise.
It needs cues of safety—warmth, rhythm, softness, stillness.
That’s the real luxury.
This week, commit to five minutes each day
to stop consuming and start attuning.
Go into your office or bedroom and close the door.
Ask not to be disturbed.
Pull the blinds.
Silence the notifications.
Let the world wait while you return to yourself.
Just close your eyes and breathe.
Release.
Let the world keep spinning.
You’ll be right here, recalibrating your power.
THE LAST WORD
This isn’t about becoming more intuitive.
It’s about returning to the truth you always carry.
The one you never actually forget— even when you silence it, doubt it, or override it to keep the peace.
Intuition doesn’t arrive with a lightning bolt.
It shows up in the split-second pause before you say yes.
In the tension you feel when something doesn’t land clean.
In the spaciousness that opens when something does.
This week is not about perfection.
It’s about rebuilding coherence—for harmony in your holistic being.
Between your sensations and your choices.
Between what you feel and what you act on.
Between your mind, your body, and your Self.
Because when you stop outsourcing your knowing, you stop outsourcing your power.
That’s the shift.
That’s the medicine.
Until next week…
Be well. Be fierce. Be lavish.
